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Drinking Less at Family Gatherings: Tips and Strategies to Try

Drinking Less at Family Gatherings: Tips and Strategies to Try

If your family events tend to be boozy, try these tips to drink less.

If you feel like you drink too much at family get-togethers, think about the root cause. Do you drink more at family gatherings than at other events because they stress you out, for example? Do you get bored? 

Figuring out what may fuel your desire for alcohol can help you develop a strategy to drink less. Following some basic rules for pacing your drinking will also help.

Find Ways to Relax 

Fitting in a workout the morning of a family get-together can help you stay relaxed throughout the day. Other people may find that booking a massage or a pedicure helps them stay relaxed. 

Learn some deep breathing exercises to practice any time you feel your stress levels rise before or during the event. Some people also find that holding onto a drink eases anxiety by giving them something to do with their hands, so consider choosing a non-alcoholic beverage (or light alcohol like champagne or wine) and see how you feel.

Set Goals and Write Them Down

To succeed in drinking less during the holidays, try some proven goal-setting techniques. Create a specific and measurable goal, such as only drinking a certain number, type, or volume, limiting alcohol to certain hours, or always having a glass of water between drinks.

For example, for one event, you might commit to only drinking wine or champagne rather than hard liquor. If that goes well, limit yourself to just two glasses of wine at the next event. If you want to limit how much you drink at home during the holidays, goals could include only drinking water after 9 pm or drinking at least two glasses of water between each glass of wine.

When you've chosen a goal, write it down. This simple act helps you remember the goal and keeps you accountable.

Don't Stay Til It's Over

Have an exit strategy before you even arrive at a party. Allow yourself time to socialize with the people, and then go home before you get bored.

Parties that extend beyond midnight can evolve into nothing but drinking. You might find it helpful to give yourself a time limit or to catch a ride with a friend who isn't drinking and may want to leave early.

Sip That Drink

One of the best ways to drink less at any event involves sipping to pace yourself. Stress can cause you to drink faster. If you often feel stressed when you get together with your family, order one glass, and then sip it for a set time. 

Maybe limit yourself to one drink before dinner, one during and one after you eat or decide to have just one drink per hour and then a glass of water. By setting goals for yourself, you will be more aware of how much you drink during the event. 

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Bring Something Else to Drink

You don't have to go to a holiday party and drink just what the host offers. You can bring a non-alcoholic drink, like apple cider or kombucha, with you.

Bringing a drink gives you something tasty to sip on throughout the night or in between alcoholic beverages. It keeps your hands busy, too, so that you don't reach for a cocktail just out of habit, and so a well-meaning friend doesn't bring you a "refill."

Remember to Eat 

Family gatherings typically involve plenty of food, so dig in! Eating before you drink slows down the rate at which alcohol enters the bloodstream and prevents you from quickly feeling drunk. As blood alcohol content (BAC) increases, inhibitions decrease, making it easier for you to reach for another drink. 

Prevent a BAC spike by eating before you go and snacking as you drink. Likewise, plan to drink a full glass of water between each drink to help you pace yourself and stay hydrated. 

Keep Fitness Goals in Mind

Working out after a night of heavy drinking feels awful, but skipping even one day of exercise can lead to more and more workouts derailed during the holidays. Don't give yourself excuses not to stick to your fitness plan. If you know you'll feel sick during the next workout when you drink too much; you might feel motivated to say no.

Focus on Friends and Family

Remember why you attended this event in the first place: to catch up with your family. By focusing on engaging conversations, you'll spend less time thinking about drinking. 

If you dislike small talk, come to the event with some interesting questions already prepared. Many people enjoy talking about themselves, sharing their opinion, or imparting a bit of wisdom. Just prompt them with the right questions and then settle into listening mode. Inevitably your relatives will also ask to hear your latest news, so plan to tell them about your job, a new pet, or a hobby. 

Suggest Activities to Stay Busy

Conversation represents just one way to fend off boredom at a family gathering. Have a few non-alcoholic party games in mind for when the discussions start to wane. Bring a board, card, or dice game suitable for all ages (like Left, Right, Center). Or choose classic no-frills party games like charades, password, and telephone. 

For high-energy families, suggest relay games. Anything that involves popping a balloon -- whether by sitting on it, crushing it between two people, or stepping on one tied to an opponent's ankle -- tends to produce a lot of laughs. Choose an activity that suits your family so that most people will feel eager to participate.

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This article has been medically reviewed by
Erin Hillers
Erin Hillers
Erin Hillers
Nurse Practitioner

Erin is a Nurse Practitioner with 8 years of experience in midwifery and women's health. She has spent the past 5 years specializing in the treatment of opioid and alcohol use disorders.

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