You don't have to look for a relationship with another sober person to maintain your own sobriety. In fact, your future partner might have a healthy relationship with alcohol and enjoy a drink now and then. Clearly communicating your needs and expectations regarding alcohol ensures both of you feel respected.
Be Upfront and Honest Immediately
You worked hard for your sobriety and took it seriously. Your partner needs to take it seriously too. It's better to immediately weed-out people who won't support your sobriety rather than waste time getting to know someone who doesn't have your best interest in mind.
Bring up your sobriety as soon as you start communicating. Let them know that you don't drink alcohol. Don't feel embarrassed. It's important to be open about your sobriety. Don't worry about scaring people away by being upfront. If your sobriety bothers them, they're not right for you.
Set Clear Boundaries
After a few successful dates, you should have a more in-depth conversation about your recovery journey. Explain why you no longer drink alcohol, the steps you've taken to maintain your sobriety, what recovery means to you, and what triggers tend to make you think about drinking.
Describe exactly what you need your partner to do to help you avoid urges to drink. For example, you might ask them not to bring any alcohol into your home, not drink alcohol in front of you, and not to plan dates that involve winery tours, bars, or other settings where the scent of alcohol is strong.
Everyone has different triggers and boundaries when it comes to alcohol. Your boundaries might even change at different points in your recovery journey. The important thing is to communicate your needs or expectations.