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How do you solve a problem?

How do you solve a problem?

The steps to solve a problem and reach a solution.

Problems can make you feel overwhelmed or out of control. Knowing the right steps to solve them helps you face it head-on and reach a solution that works. For example, what if someone you love would benefit from therapy, but they don't want to go?

Focus On The Problem

First, define the problem narrowly. Be clear about what is troubling or upsetting you. Focus on the issue and not the symptoms. 

Once you've defined the problem, brainstorm possible solutions. These ideas can be crazy, outside-the-box, or simplistic. You might also consider bouncing ideas off of others. The more ideas you can come up with, the better your chance of finding a solution.

Make a list of the reasons your loved one won't go to therapy and counter each with a definite benefit. 

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Process Of Elimination

Look at all solutions individually and honestly evaluate the pros and cons. Eliminate the ones that don't fit this particular problem, cannot be carried out, or aren't helpful. 

Consider each of your solutions and write down the benefits and note what makes the idea less appealing. 

Overcoming Obstacles

Identify possible obstacles and consequences you may face when using the solution and carefully address them one by one. If the barriers are too much to overcome, you may need to choose a different answer.

Remove anything that seems unpractical or unlikely to be effective. Go through the rest and identify the reasons your loved one may not like or agree with before them presenting them. Plan your responses if they reject a workable idea.

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Setting Goals And Deadlines

You understand the problem, and you've decided on a solution. Now you need to set goals or assign tasks that get it resolved like mapping out a timeline.

If your loved one decides to try therapy, set a timeline to keep them on track and monitor the progress. Agree to a certain number of sessions before you start and allow them the opportunity to reassess after a few visits. 

Going through the proper steps will help you resolve the problem methodically and successfully, instead of rushing ahead and potentially making things worse.

This article has been medically reviewed by
Erin Hillers
Erin Hillers
Erin Hillers
Nurse Practitioner

Erin is a Nurse Practitioner with 8 years of experience in midwifery and women's health. She has spent the past 5 years specializing in the treatment of opioid and alcohol use disorders.

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