We all experience varying degrees of the four relationship styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful. Let's take a closer look at an anxious attachment style.
When we experience an anxious attachment style, we feel unloveable, which induces a fear of being left alone. This anxiety can result in repetitive requests for assurance of love.
What causes an anxious relationship style?
The treatment we receive from our first caregivers forms our relationship styles. If our first caregiver gives us inconsistent attention, we can develop an anxious relationship style.
A caregiver who is inconsistently responsive to a child's need for affection lays the groundwork for the anxious attachment style. The child will not know when to expect affection or support, so he or she will feel anxious. Behaviors like tantrums, crying, and clinginess ensue as they seek affection.